Toxic Mothers

It should not hurt to be a child.
Following my previous post on Toxic Wives I think I am going to coin a new phrase: Toxic Moms. Women who display Hostile Passive-Aggressive Parenting.
Today’s post is a shameless copy of all the stuff I saw on YouTube while searching for answers to my little one’s pain and what I can tell her. Here are some of the phrases I copied, word-for-word, no interpretations added:
[Toxic Moms] are committing the ultimate hate crime. Every day.
Is it possible for a loving, capable parent to be alienated from his child? Yes. All a mom has to do is to slowly infuse her hatred for the dad into the child.
6 Days a month is not meaningful contact.
Thanks for always walking away when mom shouts at you.
Why is mom divorcing “us”, what have you done? Are you dangerous?
Dad I have to remember what we ate for dinner last night otherwise mom is going to tell the judge she doesn’t think you fed me.
Mom says she is going to court to protect “us” … from what?
Dad when I miss you it hurts inside.
Mom says we are not allowed to talk about you and she threw your pictures away, is she going to throw me away too?
Mom says I am too small to remember when you were mean to her.
Children don’t have a way to express their pain and confusion.
Who will heal the children hurt by this hate?
Are YOUR children safe from this form of brainwashing?
These parents are sociopaths, whose only purpose in a divorce is to win by domination.
The children are the real victims.
“Parental Alienation is about parents who place their own selfish needs above those of their defenseless children and in doing so, they deny them their right to love and be loved by both parents.” Dr. Reena Sommer
No matter how you “ration-lies” it, subtly suggesting to a child that the “other” parent is “wrong” – children should never have to choose one parent over the other – it is their right to experience the full love of both parents, not limited by the mother’s opinion.
Teaching a child to hate a parent, is to teach them to hate a piece of themselves, to teach them not to have a full relationship with the other parent because YOU don’t want a full relationship, is all about YOU, selfish YOU.
There are support systems and here is a link to one such website
I had no idea what a “targeted parent” or “alienating parent” was, or that PAS even existed. I have since come to find out that these tactics can be very common in divorce and child custody cases.

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Been there, Done that, Got the T-shirt.
Some books are quick but razor-sharp, and An Open Letter To Love Lost by pseudonym Charles Woodman fits that description.
Cosmopolitan Magazine of August 2010 page 72 has a very good article. I bought it for the headline: